How to ask a girl out

If I told you I knew how to ask a girl out on a date and have her say “yes” every time, would you want to know what I said? Probably, so I’m about to share with you what took years of trial and error to figure out: It’s not about the activity you’re inviting her out to do, but rather it’s all about how much fun she thinks she’ll have when she’s with you.

To sum it up, if follow these ways to demonstrate that you’re an attractive and fun guy to hang out with, she’ll be happy to go out with you even if she already has plans!

The Process of Asking A Women Out

There is only one reason why women will go out with men that boldly ask them out: for fun. When you go out on a date, it’s to enjoy yourself. So when you’re approaching the girl in question, if she gets the sense that you’re too serious, boring or socially awkward, anything you invite her to will naturally mean that it will be an unpleasant experience for her.

That’s why, when you meet a girl, you need to immediately have a good time with her.

There should be smiles, laughter, teasing and a playful attitude right from the start. From the second you meet, you want to have fun together. So instead of “trying to get to know someone” immediately after you meet them, you should instead concentrate on having an enjoyable time with them. Don’t worry too much about getting to know them because as you spend time with them, it will naturally come up.

Why most guys fail to get a date

Even though you might be confident, successful and fearless when it comes to approaching strangers, if you immediately dive into serious questions and try to “make them your girlfriend”. Red flags will appear in her mind and she’ll put you in the “he’s too serious” category.

Avoid this!

Does that mean that you shouldn’t discuss topics of work, school, age, (interview type questions!)? Of course you can, but very briefly! If she really wants to talk about them, you can answer her questions briefly and then suggest that you talk about them later… and then switch to a different, more interesting topic.

Make anything exciting

Keeping in mind that what we’re trying to achieve is to have a good time (for ourselves!) and demonstrate you’re a fun person to spend time with, you want to be able to make any topic of conversation entertaining. Take note: There is no perfect topic of conversation! So don’t go looking for it! Instead, talking about a movie you saw last night or even about your weekend plans will do just fine.

When you bring up these topics, talk about them with emotion and give your own personal reactions along the way. How you felt about the evening is more important than the evening itself!

Bad Example:
“We went out to an Irish Pub last night, there was a great band”

Good Example:
“I was excited to go out last night, so we went to a new Irish Pub. When I walked in, I was so surprised, couldn’t believe my eyes, it felt like I was in Ireland again. There was so much drunken energy there, I could feel it pulsating withing me as the band played. Oh yeah, I thought they were amazing… so much so that I sang at the top of my lungs as they played my favorite songs.”

Did I mention that when you talk about how you feel, you automatically have a LOT more to say about any topic. From these two stories alone, which kind of person would you want to hang out with? I’d choose the guy that seemed to have the time of his life on the weekend, and I’ll bet that the girl you’re asking out would choose the same.

Plan the logistics of the date in advance

If you want to ask a girl out, then it really helps to get this specific piece of information early on in the conversation: “What she’s up to this evening and what her schedule is like in the upcoming days.” This is pretty easy to ask early on in an interaction when you’ve just met a person and you’re getting to know them.

Just say: “So what are you up to these days?”

And listen.

She’ll tell you exactly when she’s available to do something with you, what she could potentially like to do and you might even get an interesting topic of conversation out of it! For instance, if she tells you that she’s going to do groceries, clean a little and then watch television… that’s the perfect opportunity to set up a date where you cook for her and then you watch TV together.

The trick is: Go with the flow! Even though it’s possible to make her break her plans to hang out with you, you’re just making things more difficult for yourself! If you know she’s not doing anything that evening, then invite her out! However, you’ll usually want to give her 3-4 hours to get “ready” (yes, I said 3-4 hours, women take time to get ready for a date!)

It’s your duty to ask her out

Take it upon yourself to be the man and ask her out instead of waiting for her to do it. If she feels that you’re a fun guy to be with, you’re comfortable and she has a good feeling about you, then you’re almost guaranteed a resounding “Yes” if you ask her out. Think of a date as just the next logical step in your interaction together.

Finally, remember that the secret key to how to ask a girl out is to make sure that she’s going to accept before you even ask her. If you’ve asked the right questions, you should already know when she’s available, what she’d really like to do with you and then it’s up to you to suggest it! If you’re still wondering how to get to the point where she really wants to go out with you, then I recommend reading Double Your Dating, it’s really the best starting point for guys.